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Bitty Truan's avatar

And like Joe, also loved “Lipstick.”

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Bitty Truan's avatar

Really enjoyed this short story!

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Norma Schafer's avatar

Big thanks for reading, Bitty!

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Anne Burns's avatar

Moving, Norma. Thanks for sharing.

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Norma Schafer's avatar

Thank you, dear Ani.

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Emily Rubin's avatar

As always, this was an insightful and poignant story. I'm sorry for... not so much your loss, but for what might have been.

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Norma Schafer's avatar

I close with accepting the term friend. Any other possibility was impossible. Thank you, Emily for your coaching words. I still hold out hope.

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Marcia Meier's avatar

Beautiful, Norma. I’m sorry for the loss of your friend.

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Norma Schafer's avatar

Thanks very much, Marcia.

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Lois Rodin's avatar

whew....after seeing my father struggle before death, as well as the loss of beloved pets that passed on, I don't feel there is any dignity in dying...to be extinct from memories, feelings, awareness, senses, and seeing, and all that is part of living...Sorry about the fate of someone you yearned for and cared about..it seems that no one could break through his sorrow. I will never forget Temple Grandin's comment, upon seeing a living, bright eyed cow in the slaughter line, being given the death shot, and she said "where did it go?" as life immediately drained from its body. The living give it context..but the dying can't even experience the nothingness.

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Norma Schafer's avatar

An expressive response. Thank you, Lois. Pain, both emotional and physical, with no hope for recovery, can be mitigated with ending one’s own life. It wonderful we have this choice in NM. I watched my mother die under the care of hospice. She was pain free and drifted off peacefully. I don’t know the answer to if one experiences nothingness when dying or even after one passes. I have done that. So I don’t know. The world has belief, faith, and whatever we call hope to feel that life continues. For me, life continues through memory and I hold on to that. Afterwards, we become part of the collective humanity of remembering. I’m satisfied with this explanation I don’t need any other answers.

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